I have trouble differentiating between what is fun
and what is work
I’m told this is a problem:
“you need to learn how to unwind”
people often tell me
“you’re working all the time!”
weirdly, I don’t feel stressed out
it’s not like I’m staring at a computer all day, madly sweating, tearing my hair out
much of my work feels like fun
much of my fun feels like work
are the two mutually exclusive?
my sister set out to prove to me one day that I did indeed know how to relax:
“see. you’re reading that fiction novel! That’s relaxing!”
“Oryx and Crake. Yes, that’s fun, but it’s also work. I’m researching for my script.”
“Hmm…ok, but you watch movies.”
“Fun, but also work. I’m trying to learn about directing styles.”
“Ok- you go out and socialize. That’s obviously just fun.”
True. I know what pure relaxation is. I know what work looks like in it’s purest form. It’s pretty clear what both ends sides of the spectrum looks like.
But it’s the middle stuff I’m confused about. And that stuff seems to fill up most of my life.
Are my photo shoots fun or are they work? They’re not easy. You could hardly call standing in a glacial lagoon at 6 am a lot of fun- not to mention the 3 days of editing that follow. But no one’s making me do it. I get relatively little in return for my labor. Is this fun or work?
Ditto movies- am I watching for pleasure or research? Hard to say anymore.
Ditto every book. Every dance class. Every networking event. Every film festival.
Is there a place in the middle of these two extremes where people like me spend most of their days? Somewhere between fun and work? Furk?
….mark it down, ladies and gentlemen. You heard it here first.
When you’re working so hard it can’t be fun, but you’re funning so hard it can’t be work…you’re hard at #furk.